Thousands of students who fail their papers, do so, not because they are not brilliant or do not write the correct answers to the questions; but most times, students fail to follow the instructions as regards different subjects.

Failure to adhere to instructions shows the student lacks discipline. And the examiner will not hesitate to fail such a student.

This type of scenario could be brought to bear on the issue of life as well as marriage. The manual for life, the Bible, has given us the instructions to follow so as to have a pleasurable marriage as God planned it. Lack of keeping to the demands put regrets and frustrations into marital relationships. It is not as if couples are not made for each other. Nor is it that they cannot work things out but failure to follow the prescription for joyful marriage brings a wedge inbetween.

Instruction To The Wife

The wife may have the greatest and most laudable ideas as far as home running and family matter are concerned, but God expects her to put her ideas at the feet of her husband for consideration. Let the husband bring the idea for discussion. And then decide the way to go with the idea. Wives are commanded to submit to their own husbands. Whether less educated, shorter, small in stature or status, younger or poorer, you made the choice. You marched to the altar amidst joy to be joined together, which signifies you agree with his person’s lifestyles and values. So, no excuse for lack of submission on your part. It is in the interest of the woman to submit to her husband. Why? Her husband is her shelter from storms and negative winds of life, as Isaiah 32:2 put it. A woman is more comfortable under the covering of her husband. So submit.

To The Man (Husband)

The summary of all that is expected from a man towards his wife is LOVE. A man who fails to love his wife as the commandment is, faces the punishment for the failure of such marriage.

The unfortunate situation is that some men find it difficult to love their wives. Such men do not love themselves either. How can he give what he has not? A man who does not love himself cannot love his wife. The extent to which you love yourself becomes a yardstick for measuring your love for others.

By the lifestyles and attitudes of a man, you will know whether he loves himself or not. Anything you do against your body shows you hate yourself.

A drunkard, smoker, thief, fornicator, homosexual, drug addict and the likes hate themselves. It is wrong to expect such a person to love anyone – for, he is going against God his Creator already. Anyone who can disregard God will show no love to anyone. The rest is pretence.

Why More Marriages Are In Trouble

Knowledge Deficiency: Hosea 6:4

Lack of knowledge will push a woman to choose a man with wrong lifestyles as a husband. It is also a fact that lack of knowledge makes a man hate himself by taking to  negative lifestyles. God says He will destroy anyone that destroys His temple; your body is the temple of God. It is expected of you to keep your body holy unto God.

Lack of Discipline: Success is not without a price and discipline is one of those prices you must pay for success. You have to deny yourself some certain pleasures. Nature will want you to enjoy instead of denying yourself but your desired success at a particular venture takes some comfort off you. You must endure the discomfort. Whatever your desire, there is a price tag. Pay the price and go home with satisfaction.

Is your Spouse Not Cooperating?

Take him/her to God in Prayer. The key to every heart is in His hand. God says “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.” Ezekiel 36:26. Do not be anxious about the situation, hand your spouse’s heart to God, let Him Perform divine Surgery on him/her. Then see yourself having a new, divinely refurbished spouse of yours. Patiently and in love wait on God for His Intervention. He will surely come, He is more than able.

In conclusion

We are in the world of choices. No one will force you as to what your choice is but you will face the consequences. In my opinion, go for UNITaY; it’s your best choice.