A buoyant business man gradually found himself in the midst of a storm that swallowed his wealth. He was a civil servant but went into dry cleaning business. He was enjoying quality and substantial patronage from clients all over the city – within six months of commencement.

His business started having problems when he started receiving multiple complaints, followed by a slow-down in patronage. He quickly changed into transportation business. He started that with two big buses for the city and then three small buses for interstate. Within eighteen months, the transport business projection began to fall into negative cash flow; problem sets in as the outstandings in banks were not being serviced as they should be. The last straw was the death of his first daughter, a graduate. A lot of money was spent in order to get the lady out of her undiagnosed ailment.

In his effort to get spiritual help out of his problem, he was told he had married a wrong woman, who was more powerful than he was. And if care was not taken, it would be a case of giving pearls to a swine – it would trample upon the gold and come back to hurt you. When this troubled man was asked the reason for four wives and two mistresses, he said since his childhood days, he had the picture of having many children around him. He desired to have wives. Each wife would give him at least four children. He lastly said he loved to have sex with different women. And moreover, he discovered that one woman could not have all the good traits that attracted him to the opposite sex. He made up his mind to work hard and smart as to make money, become wealthy so as to be in control of his family.

As you can see, nothing stopped him from achieving his desire or plans but definitely the result or the consequence of his dream was not as he desired. The man’s erroneous notion put him in hardship. He is today living at the mercy of people: more or less a beggar, living in the shadow of his past.

Napoleon Hill of blessed memory in his book “Think and Grow Rich” says whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe in, the mind of man can achieve.

This our once-upon-a-time successful entrepreneur achieved what he conceived in his mind. But he failed to think through the possible flaws or consequences of having many wives.

From this story, the man said it is not possible to get everything a man desires from a woman. Don’t you agree with him? I agree with that statement. Likewise a woman cannot get everything she loves from her husband. That is why some women today, despite their husband’s status, wealth and power, still look out for other men. Height could be the reason, voice, broad shoulder, eye-lashes, good set of teeth etc. Such women confides in friends: “you know I experience full satisfaction and orgasm with my husband but I just like to taste a man that has this or that trait that I like”. That is demon talking! These are some of the things our society is living with today.

Getting married to your choice husband, in my opinion, does not mean the person is perfect. But you’ve decided to enjoy his/her perfection, and adjust to live with his/her imperfection in love. Not in murmuring.  We shall be perfect in heaven when Jesus becomes our husband.

Most individuals are disturbed at the way they consistently fall victim of compulsive sex desires.

CONFESSIONS

A twenty-five year old married man put it this way: “I know it’s wrong but I can’t help it. I get along with my wife fine in bed”. Another man said: “I have tried without success to put an end to this temptation, I love my wife.”

It is a fact that more healthy married men, no matter how happily married, frequently lust after other women than their wives. There is nothing abnormal about their lust. But their lack of control leads to self defeat and unwisely giving in to this lust. It is also a fact that where male or female is healthy, the sex drives tend to have their own automatic controls and are very difficult to abuse.

Sex, when enjoyed up to the limit of individual capacity, is one of the most harmless, beneficial and healthiest of human activities.