Personally, I would not count myself as among people who face rejection in their marriage even though ours is an intertribal marriage. Through our faith in God and the determination to make our marriage work, our focus  on our goal has helped us to prevail on what people think they could put us down for.

The Psalmist says”O Lord, when you favoured me, you made my mountain stand firm…” That is our testimony. God’s favour stands us out. But when my husband and I made the choice of becoming an entrepreneur, publishing sports in Nigeria, if there is any other word for rejection, I think that could be appropriate for what we went through the first seven years.

My husband usually refers to those days as our time in the “University of hard knocks”. It was a wilderness experience for us. Our  experience? You would think you have seen the light out of darkness; most times, at the verge of break-through, something would happen to set us back. Supposed helpers turned away, there was loneliness – you become a land where no one is passing through.

There is wandering, desperately looking for a way out. Trying your hands on ideas that you think could help you out of the wilderness. Frustration, as a result of constant disappointment is a thing you endure in the wilderness. In all, I want to say wilderness experience is good if it lasts for a short period. It is not good for wilderness experience to be prolonged. Thank God, His right and mighty hand brought us out. (Halleluyah!).

So, it is possible to face rejection in your place of work, in your business, at the market and in the society at large. What is synonymous with rejection is: no matter how you brave it, it touches you with sharp pain in the heart, your adrenalin drops and your bones become weak.

So it is not much of different with marriage. As a rejected person, you can be likened to an outcast of whom no one cares. You are treated like a plague of leprosy. It is better not to experience it, for it leads to a waste of life if not well handled.

Is There A Cure For Rejection?

Medically, there is none. Knowledge is the cure, searching for the cause and patiently looking for the right solution or remedy. The most appropriate cure starts with your approach to the issue. It is not about what happened but your reaction to what has happened. There have been couples who chose to be far from their relations as a result of rejection and intimidation but I doubt if that is a lasting solution.

Do you want to quickly throw in the towel and call it quit? So soon? I want you to believe with me that every war is winnable and battles are conquerable if you can patiently, with little endurance, study your opponent’s source of strength and then tackle him or her.

I tell you, rejection in marriage has a cure. You shall find out soon. Till then focus on your focus.