Unknown to many, they set themselves up as an enemy in family matters. You may ask how. I have heard people, even close family relations to either the husband or wife saying, “ I like the husband not the wife.” “I do not like the wife. The wife does not befit the man’s status. Or vice versa. The fact is that the choice of wife or husband is personal. You can put in your advice during courtship. The moment the dotted lines have been signed, no third party opinion is necessary.

It is better you step aside in order not to set yourself up for disgrace as it happened to Aaron and Miriam. They were close to Moses and with that they thought giving their opinion about Moses’ marriage should not be out of place but in the process, leprosy was their reward. Numbers 12:1-15.

Relating with the wife and not the husband or accepting the husband and not the wife is not right. It is the same as it happened in the case of Haman who planned to hang Mordecai, Queen Esther’s cousin. Haman had concluded the agenda to eliminate the Queen’s people, the Jews, while he was still parading himself in the palace as a friendly officer in King Ahasewarus palace.

You either stay away, shut your mouth and hold your peace, or put yourself in line as the enemy and adversary of the couple as Queen Esther referred to Haman, the wicked officer.

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE

One of the people God brought our way to help us in our entrepreneurship adventure suddenly turned cold towards my husband, though my husband did not tell me. He was focusing on what the man was helping us to achieve in our quest for our business success. He was enduring his sudden cold shoulder but I perceived things were not as they used to be. I noticed our helper warmed up to me than to my husband who introduced him to me. Then I decided to tactically withdraw myself from the relationship.

There is no way a man/woman will show likeness to me and not to my husband and I will still take the person as my friend or associate.

Marriage has made the two to be one. Any association that takes in the wife without the husband or vice versa, couples should think twice before joining or encouraging such association or relationship. Such friendship is out to hurt you, if not now, in the near future. No matter the role the person may be playing in your life, do away with such a friend. And God will surely bring a replacement. Replacement usually is better than the replaced. Each time you change a building’s paint, it looks more attractive, you know! Back to the issue of our good Samaritan, I reduced the frequency of our interaction.

If per chance we met, I no longer warmed up to him any more. Before long, God provided an opening for us. We no longer needed him in our production line. Personally, I felt it was not right to be friendly with me while you snub my husband, so I distanced myself from the relationship and God replaced him.

Just as Haman was still parading himself in the palace as a friend and loyal officer to the king, that is how many supposed friends go in and out of homes while they plan their associate’s hurt.

People who come to your house to:

i. Slight your spouse

ii. Talk down on your children

iii. Compare you with others either in

positive or negative light.

iv. Gossip about other families.

v. Want to probe into what you are doing, or how you are coping with your family, are most times your adversary and wicked enemy.

YOUR WEAPON OF VICTORY

The word of God and love are the weapons to put you in command. Household enemy is real, for the earth is a place of cruelty. But more real and powerful is the word of God. The word says, what God has joined together, let no one put asunder. This is a divine warning and the consequences no one can quench. You just have to keep to His command.

Marriage is of God. All enemies of your marriage are God’s enemies. And so your victory is assured.

God says He will contend with all that contends with you and then save your children. He says, every oppressor of your life, He will give them their own flesh to eat as food and their blood as sweet wine for them to drink. Since God has become your refuge and fortress. You just let God take vengeance on your behalf. Divide and rule agents shall regret their activities in your marriage. Provided you control your temper as not to quarrel or treat such person in a bad manner.

God did not create a way of escape from destruction for His enemies; rather repentance. So, there are few choices for satanic agents.

In the case of Queen Esther and Haman, King Ahasearus later realized that he was the target and dealt with Haman, the wicked officer. Whenever the devil strikes at any member of your family, the head of the family is the indirect target. Anyone who touches your husband/wife or child touches you. If he succeeds, you will be distracted, suffer loss of time, money, emotion and setback sometimes. There is a saying that ’if you love me, you will love my dog.’

Relating with the husband and the children but not the wife is satanic and must be avoided.

IN CONCLUSION:

1. Your good moral will help in no small measure to bail you out.

2. Be courageous to correct anyone who is drawing close to you but repelling your spouse. If the person refuses your correction, cut him/her off and protect your marriage and family from divide and rule agents. Yours is a secured family by His grace.

3. From now on team up with members of your family to pray against any satanic agent assigned to your marriage.