Lest I forget, you need an inbuilt attribute of good moral as a strong weapon to use against your critics.

Your character speaks volumes. You cannot fake it. If you cannot control the blood of hatred flowing in your veins, you will lose out in the battle against rejection.

An intolerant, hostile, haughty, too quiet, hard looking person will  most of the time find himself/herself in a wrong marriage. Why? Because of his/her character. Self cent redness, unforgiving spirit, negative mindset – all these make you predict doom for your marriage and then you see yourself working or behaving your prophesy and mindset.

Nobody else but you are the one working against yourself. Many women are out of marriage today because of their negative morals while so many men are always in and out of marriage because they lack the right attitude for building a stable marriage.

Your good character, your will to be responsible is the visa through which you break the wall of critics against you.

A wife who is always moody will drive away visitors from her home. No mother-nlaw or sister-inlaw will love such a wife. In such a situation, the mother of the house hardly smiles. She is always too serious (In my opinion, I want to think it is all tactics to keep people away from her home). Her face is friendly when her people are around. That is evil. Marriage does not say the woman should drive her husband’s people away. If you show love, it is a question of time. Your critics’ heart must melt. When you project hatred, they also will give you back the same. You just have to be of good character. If not for you, then for the sake of your children so that the rejection would not continue.

As you are adjusting your character, see to it that your business or career brings wealth to your family. Financial freedom with the grace of giving (generosity) will quench the fire of hatred and rejection against you. Or you may want to consider yet another approach?

It is advisable that no matter how far or fast you are on a wrong route, you just have to turn back and take the right and correct route to your desired destination.

If by error of judgment, you are in a wrong marriage, you have to make certain adjustments to correct things.

Why? If you miss choosing the right partner in marriage, your achievement in life would be affected. There is every tendency for your glorious destiny to be corrupt. Or you want to try divorce? Ehhh! Divorce is a bad solution. But where your partner is not cooperating with you, it could be a way out. For two cannot walk together unless they agree. That will be a personal decision for individuals to make.

But remember, God says He hates divorce” Malachi 2 vs 15-16. The more reason it is better to look before you leap into marriage. There is no exit route. Once you enter, you are in for life.

In my opinion, in this twenty first century, you do not have to lose your life to save a bad marriage. You may need to run so as to fight another day if need be. You will have your conscience to settle with and then God, anyway, because you have disobeyed Him. Apostle Paul says “…work out your own salvation with  fear and trembling.”

The supremacy of God rules over the affairs of men. If you can settle with Him, who knows? God’s Word through Apostle Paul reads “Therefore, He has mercy on whom He wills” (Roman 9:18). (“He” here stands for God). After all, the prodigal son was accepted back by his father… So the ball is in your court.

Next, I am going to write on the permanent solution to rejection in marriage. Till then focus on your focus.

Open Invitation

There are steps God led me to take, which limited space will not give chance to put here. I invite you to my next marriage seminar at SADC building on Thursday 19th August. Time 10am prompt. There, we shall share all in full. Every crisis in your marriage has come to an end now in Jesus name. See you!