Are You With Your Right Rib?
On this column, I can never be tired of reminding my readers about the purpose of marriage, and why if you fail in marriage, your life cannot be said to be complete.; for marriage is about caring. You are made to care and for people to care for you.
A man who fails to find his missing rib misses it all. The responsibility of searching is for the man; he must discover and bring to his own abode his own rib in order to be a complete, fulfilled man.
Many today are aware there is a vacuum; lack of fulfillment despite all they have achieved. The inner satisfaction is not there. For such a person, could you please check your marital life? Probably, your own rib is elsewhere. Until a man or woman finds his/her own rib, every other man/woman he/she lives with is a life of struggle. When you meet with Jesus and give Him your heart, He can translate you and your spouse into His own kingdom of light where you secure a glorious and fulfilled life through Jesus Christ.
SIGNS OF MISSING RIB
Family welfare is of no importance to a man who is living with another man’s rib. He struggles with his spirit to do whatever he does for his so-called family. The wife continuously struggles to get things from him. He does not have the understanding of what his role is; he does not know how and when to do what. A third party must come in for him to pay his house rent. His wife will fast and pray to get house-upkeep allowance. Clothing his wife and children does not concern him. His wife’s appearance, good or bad makes no difference; they are just co-tenants. He cares less to know his children’s education status; unless the wife raises any issue, they have nothing to discuss.
Communication does not come easy for them. In any case, they have no common interests; rather cutting remarks and malice is a way of life. It is a case of cat and dog co-existing. In this type of marriage, known as MALFUNCTIONING marriage, wife will have to paddle her own canoe as the husband lives like some true African man, who sees his wife as an object to occupy a space in his house. Bringing or buying an object from the store and placing it where he thinks it fits is his only responsibility to the society.
To a man or woman who finds themselves living with this unfortunate circumstance, hope is not lost. I will want us to address it as ignorance on your part. Ignorance is not an excuse but your burning desire to enjoy marriage as it ought to be can help you out, provided you have a teachable heart.
The reason many homes are in a critical sorry state today is that people neglect the rules and regulations and instructions of God who instituted marriage and performs the first wedding ceremony. There are spiritual basis for marriage, marital triangle. Man, the first pillar, stands on the right base. He will choose the second pillar, his wife. The two shall come together at the top where the third person who is constant, God, is. Without God, no marriage can stand. Each time a man finds his wife, God is happy. When you invite Him to be the head of your home, He blesses you with favour.
Where God is left out in marital choice and processes, such marriage is exposed to the danger of being blown apart. It is ideal to first find out the reason for marriage; to know why God instituted this everlasting institution. Where can you get the authentic purpose you may ask? From your Bible, the word, and the instructions for successful living.
It is a big relief for couples to find out what they are to do and how to go about it in God’s way. It is not as if all will be rosy, no. But you will sail through and be victorious with satisfaction at the end. That is why God’s wisdom in written words is the best option.
I will first put the purpose of marriage through to you. When you see and embrace the reason why. If you have love and desire to enjoy the purpose, then you will joyfully adhere to the demands without complain.
REASONS FOR MARRIAGE
1. That a man cannot succeed alone under his parents but he must leave his parents, openly unite himself with his recovered rib, his wife, who become his best companion. For man or woman, the best of you comes in the company of your love. Divine institution, workable and wealth creating ideas, and strength of continuity flows better in the company of your soul companion. The summary of marriage is based on welfare, caring, being affectionate, sensitive to the needs of your spouse, making life better for others through team work and more.
To enjoy a benefit, there is what to do, a responsibility. A life without responsibility is void of honour. A wife has her own responsibility in marriage for that marriage to stand the test of time and succeed. Likewise the husband who is head of the home. Poor leadership by the husband is the reason for troubled marriages today. Where any of the couple fails to be responsible, it brings storm and crack into such marriage.
2. The man and woman are joined together by taking responsibility for each other’s welfare; loving your soul mate above all others. Soul mates care more about their wellness, done with mutual respect.
3. Two becomes one flesh in the intimacy and commitment of sexual union which is reserved for marriage. Sex, a union that brings about procreation is also the engine oil that services your relationship for continuity.
Sex is a magnetic force, a sweet experience that is unique to you as a couple. Sex is a powerful force; a restorer of vigor and a confidence booster especially for men, provided it is done with your right partner. Sex outside your marriage is a devourer.
We are interdependent in nature. Let’s play our roles faithfully for heaven is watching.
