Over-rating yourself or under-rating your spouse, in a marriage relationship, could destroy the unity of your marriage. Likewise the mindset that your spouse should be perfect in all things – in an imperfect world. It is setting yourself up for disappointment. Your marriage can be likened to a fertile, virgin land bequeathed you. Whatever you plant will be manifested by the quality of your harvest. You must plant and water your seeds before you can expect harvest.