Rejection in marriage, like leprosy or epilepsy, is not an incurable disease, which in this 21st century, has a remedy, provided you have the means to procure the right medication and the discipline it entails. As in my earlier articles, your good moral, positive progressive life and giving grace are the cure for rejection.

When you are confronted with discrimination and criticism in your marriage, the steps to take are:

1. Quit the marriage before it smears not only you but your children because it could be that bad or,

2. Prepare your mind to pay for your error.

Lest I forget, you need an inbuilt attribute of good moral as a strong weapon to use against your critics.

Your character speaks volumes. You cannot fake it. If you cannot control the blood of hatred flowing in your veins, you will lose out in the battle against rejection.

An intolerant, hostile, haughty, too quiet, hard looking person will  most of the time find himself/herself in a wrong marriage. Why? Because of his/her character. Self cent redness, unforgiving spirit, negative mindset – all these make you predict doom for your marriage and then you see yourself working or behaving your prophesy and mindset.

Marriage is a lifelong enterprise. And it is a business that cannot blossom in a hostile environment as applicable in the business world. The foreigners in the Niger Delta had to go despite their expertise knowledge, when the militants became hostile to them.

Personally, I would not count myself as among people who face rejection in their marriage even though ours is an intertribal marriage. Through our faith in God and the determination to make our marriage work, our focus  on our goal has helped us to prevail on what people think they could put us down for.

The Psalmist says”O Lord, when you favoured me, you made my mountain stand firm…” That is our testimony. God’s favour stands us out. But when my husband and I made the choice of becoming an entrepreneur, publishing sports in Nigeria, if there is any other word for rejection, I think that could be appropriate for what we went through the first seven years.

Whoever you are, rejection or criticism is always a bitter pill to swallow. The exchange of blows that occur in the house where honourables were transacting business recently could be as a result of somebody resisting rejection or criticism.

Fighting against criticism or rejection has led to the demotion of a royal highness who failed to draw a line in resisting rejection. The maturity that comes as a result of knowledge and experience is the strong weapon with which you can fight and prevail over rejection.

Let me refresh your memory on our subject matter, sex urge. In one of my recent column, what if My Spouse’s Desire For Sex Is Not As High As Mine? I wrote “Your Worst Enemy is Yourself”

Know This: Your Worst Enemy Is Yourself

A man’s enemies will be the members of his own household. Mt 10:36. Your physical body is the house to your spirit and your soul. 1st Thessalonians 5:23. Every part of your body is the member of your household. E.g. your eyes, nose, ears, hands, legs, toes etc.

A buoyant business man gradually found himself in the midst of a storm that swallowed his wealth. He was a civil servant but went into dry cleaning business. He was enjoying quality and substantial patronage from clients all over the city – within six months of commencement.

His business started having problems when he started receiving multiple complaints, followed by a slow-down in patronage. He quickly changed into transportation business. He started that with two big buses for the city and then three small buses for interstate. Within eighteen months, the transport business projection began to fall into negative cash flow; problem sets in as the outstandings in banks were not being serviced as they should be. The last straw was the death of his first daughter, a graduate. A lot of money was spent in order to get the lady out of her undiagnosed ailment.

The purpose of marriage is to add value. Marital relationship calls for adjustment; you learn to unlearn. You are to bear the burden of your lovely partner. Marriage puts responsibility on you.

You love, convert weakness to power. Marriage gives power. But you must be disciplined so as to rule over your power. What About Sex? Sex is created for husband and wife’s enjoyment. It is legitimate in a marital relationship. Sex outside marriage is a sin. It is a sin against yourself and God.

Marriage ceremony is the starting point of a new family. Every family ordained by God represents a holy nation, a royal Priesthood. What are we to do? We are to reign on earth. To subdue the earth, dominate and multiply. Our fruits shall be good and endure as to bring glory to Him who has enthroned us.

For that desired result of our kingship to come alive, there are instructions to follow. One of such instructions is whether you eat, or drink or whatever you do, do it all to the glory of God. With this admonition in the first book of Corinthians Chapter 10 verse thirty-one, anything done out of proportion leads to a disorder.

Thousands of students who fail their papers, do so, not because they are not brilliant or do not write the correct answers to the questions; but most times, students fail to follow the instructions as regards different subjects.

Failure to adhere to instructions shows the student lacks discipline. And the examiner will not hesitate to fail such a student.